Wednesday, December 15, 2010

A HEARTFELT TRIBUTE TO MICHAEL JACKSON - Gone Too Soon - (Chapter 6)

     Looking back on my early childhood and teenage years, I have come to understand the origins of my rather eclectic knowledge of music.  I grew up singing many genres of songs at home - popular, sacred, and classical - my mother had a huge collection of song books which my brother and I have now inherited.    My early performances on stage, singing Christmas and Easter music, as well as Disney movie vocals are directly due to her.    (Thank you, Mom).    John also sang (at a later age) in a Barbershop Quartet, and other vocal ensembles at holiday times, and I played the piano in vocal and instrumental groups as well as singing solos.    Every week we watched the 'Ed Sullivan Show,' which  featured many pop and soul groups - The Temptations, The O'Jays, Diana Ross and the Supremes, The Bee Gees, the Beach Boys, The Doors, The Beatles, The Rolling Stones, The Jackson 5, The Turtles, The Mamas and the Papas,  Sly and the Family Stone,  to name a few.   I could play this music by ear, plus selections of George Gershwin, Cole Porter, Jerome Kern, etc., and consequently would entertain friends for hours at the piano - I was very popular at parties!     Then there was my association with Chad Mitchell and his Trio, which I have already mentioned in Chapter 5.    Later in my life, I was able to use this knowledge in playing for George Balanchine's ballet class, as he only liked popular music for his class.   The reason: he didn't want to hear classical music played at the 'wrong' tempo, which can easily happen, given the vagaries of a ballet class and the various tempi required.    Furthermore, he was a trained and sophisticated musician as well as a choreographer, and as such, would be irritated by incorrect tempi.    (Classical music needs a learned musician - which I was - and therefore in complete accord with his wishes to use popular music for class.)   
     Mother also took John and me to the movies once a week, on a regular basis.   Our father loved football and baseball games, and either attended or watched them on television.   Mother was not interested in spectator sports, hence the movie outings.   She loved musicals, so we saw just about every one that existed, and all the Disney films as well.    To this day, I can sing along with all the musical stars of yesteryear on the PBS channels, when those programs are aired. 
     You may wonder why I didn't choose to enter the field of popular music, instead of the classical field.   As a matter of fact, I had several opportunities to do so in New York City, and later in Europe, but by then I was deeply involved in the classical tradition, and loved working at the piano (my favorite instrument) to constantly improve my skills as a concert pianist.  I was playing concerts regularly - both in America and Europe, and was piano soloist for The New York City Ballet.    This was the most interesting route for me.   Although I loved popular music, my respect for this art form was not nearly as great as it was for classical music and musicians - that was the REAL DEAL in my estimation, at least at that time.    Then I met one particular artist (and it only takes one) who completely changed my point of view on this subject - that person was Michael Jackson.    I had watched him grow up as lead singer for the Jackson 5 at age 10, and develop  into an amazing artistic phenomenon.    I loved his music, his singing, choreography, and dancing - not to mention those mammoth shows he created for his concert tours.   (He had more stamina than any performer I knew then or now.)   What a massively talented, creative, multi-faceted genius he was!   I remember reading a NY Times article which stated:  "in the world of popular music, there is Michael Jackson, and then there is everybody else."  (He was but 25 years old at the time - and a force to be reckoned with.)
      I thought him a most extraordinary individual in every way -- his brilliance was evident in everything he did or said.   He made a huge impact on me - I realized that he was as devoted to his art as I was to mine.   Watching how he worked with others, to this day when I teach my students, I think of him, and how kind he was to people, even when correcting them in rehearsal.    He was truly one of the nicest, sweetest, and most caring human beings I have ever met in my life, and I came to adore him.  There was an aura and a light about him that, except for Mr. Balanchine,  I had never before experienced  - one truly wanted to be in his company.     Michael was a perfectionist - he rehearsed his songs and dance steps to the nth degree, and scrutinized every note of his recordings before they were released.   He pushed himself to the limit because he wanted his musical offerings to be as perfect as possible, and was willing to do whatever it took to achieve this.     He also expected the same high standards from others: his band, back-up singers and dancers, stage crew, wardrobe and costume people, etc.   Nothing escaped his notice on stage, even when he was singing and dancing himself at the same time.  He had an unerring ear and eye.   
      Michael generally changed the face of show business - including the way a song was delivered, illustrating how a dance could enhance a song and imprint it upon one's mind - especially his dancing.   ("Beat It" and the stage version of "Billie Jean," plus "Smooth Criminal," come to mind, not to mention the music videos of "Thriller" and "Bad."   After his legendary television performance of "Billie Jean" in 1983 for 'Motown 25,' (the NBC special celebrating the 25th Anniversary of Motown) where he unveiled his famous 'Moonwalk,' his career went up several more notches. A staggering 47 million viewers tuned in to watch and if one didn't know Michael Jackson before, one certainly did after that television special.    The audience was spellbound, and so was the rest of the viewing public.    This is when the white glove was introduced, the dark sequined jacket (borrowed from his mother's closet), the white socks under short black trousers, and the black fedora.    His routine that evening has been described by even the most sceptical of observers as 'poetry in motion.'   His lightning moves, the dramatic static freezes,  then the quicksilver moves again - these became trademarks of his.   Dance notables such as Fred Astaire (to whom Michael's autobiography "Moonwalk" was dedicated), Gene Kelly, and Hermes Pan dropped by his home to congratulate him on his performance, and incidentally, learn how to moonwalk from him!   (Michael speaks about this in his book).   Strictly speaking, Michael didn't 'invent' the moonwalk.   Old timers like Fred Astaire and Marcel Marceau had created illusions of floating backwards, and Jeffrey  Daniel of disco group Shalamar had utilized it.    Michael witnessed him on Soul Train, (which he watched frequently)  and asked Jeffrey to teach him the step.   Michael, as was his way, took it further - his art was that of the magician,  (and he was in love with 'magic.') The release of his album "Thriller"   saw his career soar to the heavens - and sell millions of records.   Then came the video of  "Thriller" which sent the record album through the roof again!    The Motown TV performance cemented his place in pop history and his rise to unimaginable fame (the "Thriller" album sold another million copies the following week) and he stayed on top for the next ten years.   In so doing, he dominated and defined the decade of the 80's.         He was invited to the White House to meet President and Mrs. Reagan and given a Humanitarian Award for services to a charity that aided people in overcoming alcohol and drug abuse, (prompting President Reagan to quip, "Isn't this a Thriller?")   He donated the use of his recording, "Beat It"   for an ad campaign to discourage teenage drinking, met with President Bush, and then a bit later, performed for the inauguration of President Clinton, where he made a plea onstage for funds to fight the AIDS epidemic, and assist the victims of this disease.   His "Thriller" album was inducted into the Guiness Book of World Records in 1984, and in 2009 MTV Base and VH1 voted it the best album released in MTV's lifetime.   It's been preserved by the US Library of Congress as an item "deemed culturally significant."   (As of this date in 2010, the album has sold 110 million units, and counting.)    
          In the ensuing years, he mounted huge touring shows - bringing the entire stage and all the lighting and sound equipment with him (two plane loads).     Bubbles, his pet chimp, also made the trip.     The record-shattering  'Bad Tour' (sponsored by Pepsi) lasted 16 months for 123 shows  (1986-88) and boosted his profile to an even higher level.    People around the planet wanted to catch a glimpse of the near-mythical creature they had witnessed in those groundbreaking videos.   In Japan he was named "Typhoon Michael."   The even more elaborate  'Dangerous Tour' was sponsored again by Pepsi, and slated to last 1992-93, but had to be cut short when Michael fell ill.  Prior to that, the Bucharest concert was filmed (rights were sold for $21 million) and shown on HBO in 1992.    His album, "Dangerous"   cost a record $12 million to make (Teddy Riley was the producer, and the album features cutting-edge rhythms  which appealed to a younger generation.)  Somewhere in the middle of all this, he found time to perform at the 27th Superbowl in 1993,  and be interviewed by Oprah Winfrey at his home, for a 'Live around the World' television event.    He talked openly about his skin disorder (vitiligo),  his father's very strict disciplinary tactics (some would call it 'abusive,') and his plastic surgeries.    
       It was prior to the last Jackson Brothers Tour in 1984 (called the 'Victory Tour'), that Michael was filming a Pepsi Cola commercial with his brothers.   The pyros went off early, and his hair caught on fire.    There is a horrific video of this on YOUTUBE -  he was fortunate not to have died in the accident.   But he lost much of his hair, and his scalp was badly burned. He did not sue Pepsi over this incident, but they awarded him over a million dollars (perhaps to pre-empt any lawsuits down the line), which Michael donated to a foundation that funded 'The Michael Jackson Burn Center' in Los Angeles.   He went on the nationwide tour as a member of the Jackson 5, but in great pain, even with the use of medication.     This was the first time he had ever taken anything in the way of drugs, and while he weaned himself off them, they always held an allure  as an escape from pain - physical as well as mental.   It was also during this time period that his skin began to change color - and white splotchy areas became evident... one could see it.   This was due to a skin disorder called 'vitiligo,' which was a genetic condition on his father's side of the family.  He was obliged to wear make-up on and off stage to even out his skin color (after all, he was a performing artist, and appearance plays a large role).   His make-up girl, Karen, was always with him whenever he had stage shows, photo shoots, etc.    (Michael's son, Prince, also has this disorder.)    As if that weren't enough, he began to display signs of the autoimmune condition called 'lupus' which among other things, causes one's hair to fall out.    It also affects the joints, and consequently he was frequently in pain before and after his shows.   Thereafter, he had to wear hairpieces and weaves most of the time, and take prescription medication on a regular basis.   He had no control over any of these physical maladies, but was heavily criticized for what people thought 'oddities'.    The public made much of his plastic surgeries, even though they were limited to his nose, and a cleft insertion into his chin.    (When Michael was a teenager, he had a case of extremely bad acne, which lasted for about 2 years.   While he had previously been a fun loving and cheerful young man, he became withdrawn and quiet, and stayed home when he didn't have to perform.     In addition, his father teased him about the size of his nose - calling him 'Big Nose' -  and his brothers joined in the fun of teasing Michael.   Consequently he wouldn't look at himself in the mirror, washed his face in the dark, and told his mother that he was 'so ugly.'    His mother recounts the day when he just left the house, didn't say where he was going, and made a trip to a plastic surgeon's office, and came back with bandages on his face!   This was the first of his 'nose alterations.'   A bit later he fell down on the stage, and broke his nose, so another procedure was necessary.    His mother said that he then seemed to become somewhat partial to having his nose re-done.    (She went so far as to talk to the doctor, and ask him to do nothing more to her son's nose, but just tell him that the procedure had been done, when it hadn't.   But, of course, the doctor didn't want to do this, even for her.    Fortunately none of this affected his extraordinary ability to sing and dance, so he continued to shine brightly.
     He won more awards than any artist ever has to this day - a total of 13 Grammys -  (8 in one evening at the Grammy Awards in 1984), 8 American Music Awards in the same year,  and in subsequent years was named Artist of the Decade, Artist of the Millenium,  won several World Music Awards,  NAACP Awards, MTV Music Video awards, BMI Urban Awards, Billboard Awards, Soul Train Awards, Grammy Living Legend Award (presented to him in 1993 by his sister, Janet),  and the list goes on and on.   Since he won every prize available, new ones had to be invented just for him!   
    In 1997 he was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame as a member of the Jackson 5, and again in 2001 as a solo artist.   It was in 2001 that the 30th anniversary of his career was celebrated at Madison Square Garden, and nationally televised.   There were two performances, and included many celebrity performers (Marc Anthony, Destiny's Child with Beyonce, James Ingram,  Whitney Houston, Usher, N'SYNC, Justin Timberlake, Britany Spears, to name a few.)    The second half was introduced by Elizabeth Taylor and featured the Jackson Brothers (re-united for the first time since 1984).   The rest of the program was devoted to Michael - including his iconic performances of  " Thriller, Beat It, The Way You Make Me Feel, Billie Jean, and "You Rock My World,"   (the hit song on his Invincible recording released in 2001.The second performance was on September 10, 2001, the day before the 9/11 disaster.     
     In 1985 he co-wrote (with Lionel Ritchie) 'We Are The World' at Quincy Jones' request, to be recorded by the reigning pop music stars of that time.   Harry Belafonte and Ken Kragan spear-headed the project with Bob Geldof.  Pop singers such as Bob Dylan, Stevie Wonder, Cyndi Lauper, the other Jackson brothers,   La Toya Jackson, Michael Jackson,  Bruce Springsteen, Willie Nelson, Kenny Rogers, Paul Simon, Bette Midler, Darryl Hall and John Oates, Steve Perry, Bob Geldof, Smokey Robinson, Ray Charles, Harry Belafonte, Lionel Ritchie, Diana Ross, Dionne Warwick, Tina Turner, Billy Joel,  Huey Lewis and the News, James Ingram,  and many others gathered together on the evening of the AMA awards after the show to record the song.   Michael skipped the show to lay down the vocal track guide beforehand along with Quincy.   All parties concerned donated their services: musicians, singers, and technical crew.    They were all advised by Quincy to 'check their egos at the door.'   The venture was called 'The USA For Africa' (United Support of Artists For Africa) and the recording earned in the area of $50 - $75 million for African refugees and starvation victims, winning two  Grammys for 'Record and Song of the Year.'   
       In addition to his amazing musical abilities,   I know that he could draw very well, was a marvelous writer, poet, and lyricist -  a very deep thinker indeed.     (I have sent some of his prose and poetry to various friends who had no idea of his gifts in that area!)    He was such a wonder that I can still scarcely believe it!    I am of the opinion that after  finishing his incredible performing career, he would have been a fabulous film maker, director, and producer.    Doubtless he would have composed the music for his films as well.    I don't believe he could ever have stopped composing - he was like a water tap that wouldn't turn off as far as music was concerned - (much like Mozart in his day.)   
     He demonstrated how he would record his compositions to show them to prospective producers with whom he might be working (demo recordings, they are called).   He could make all sorts of sounds with his mouth, singing at the same time, and would sound like a complete instrumental group!    Then someone else (like the pianist) would notate the music which he sang,  on paper, so they could be transcribed later for the musicians in the band.    (It would take too long for Michael to actually write down all the sounds he made, so he sang them into a tape machine.)    I was fascinated by all this and his ease in showing me the process.   He also spoke about how the music would come to him at various times, or in a dream.    He felt that he was only a channel that transmitted the music - and that he could not take credit for any of those songs.   (John Lennon also said something akin to this).   Sometimes I write poetry and have had a similar experience of sentences coming to me fully formed or complete.    So I knew what he was talking about.   
     When I think about how poorly he was treated by the media, and the public humiliation he was forced to endure (including that trial, the false allegations, which by now have all been exposed as lies,) I could just scream.    What he deserved was great respect and admiration, not only for his incredible performing ability, his great musical and creative gifts, but also for his humanitarian endeavors all over the world, and unending generosity.   I do know that a very successful pop artist earns millions (and Michael was the MOST successful) - that fact alone will attract the vultures.    (Consider that last year his estate earned $275 million dollars from CD and DVD sales.    John Lennon's and Elvis Presley's estate earned $50 - $60 million.)   This is not to mention the amount of jealousy, and ill will generated by less talented people in the music industry.  
     The mysterious circumstances surrounding his death leave many unanswered questions - although there are definitely clues to be found, if one is interested in looking.    Michael, himself, had said that he thought there were people who did not want him around...(his mother made this statement on her interview with Oprah recently - and further stated that he must have known something, or he would not have said anything like that to her.)  
     For me, I can only say that Michael's death saddened me beyond words -  it is still difficult for me to believe.    The fact that he was only three weeks away from the first concert in the O2 arena in London, (which I had planned to attend) only heightened the loss which most of the world has felt.  I do know that he was one - of -  a - kind.   There will never be another Michael Jackson.
 
   "All art has as its ultimate goal, the union between the material and the spirtual; the human and the divine.   I believe that to be the reason for the very existence of art, and I am grateful and honored to be an instrument of nature....to be allowed to give through music and dance, any way that I can."      ----Michael Jackson----

Thursday, December 2, 2010

GONZAGA UNIVERSITY (My Freshman Year at College) - Chapter 5

       To backtrack just a bit, during my sophomore and junior years in high school, I entered and won every division of the Greater Spokane Music Festival, including the Concerto Division.  The prizes were mostly money (very welcome), except for the concerto competition.   The winner of that portion was scheduled for two performances of the Mozart Concerto in C Minor with the Spokane Philharmonic during their fall season.   (Writer's Side Note: This is my most favorite Mozart concerto, and subsequently I re-studied it with Sari Biro in San Francisco.    It was a staple in her repertoire and is included on her recently Remastered Boxed CD Set.   I performed it in San Francisco with chamber orchestra, and then several times in Europe many years later.   Every Mozart concerto has a cadenza connected to the first movement - and there are always several options included with the piano score.   I had listened to a recording of Robert Casadesus [well-known French pianist] who composed his own cadenza, and I liked it very much.   So I wrote to him, C/O the publishing company, to request his assistance in locating the published version so I might purchase it, as I hadn't been able to find it.   I also told him I was 16 years old and was performing the concerto with the Spokane Philharmonic.   He answered my letter, also sending me a printed copy of the cadenza, at no charge!   Of course, I sent him a profuse letter of thanks, and he answered it -  with an invitation to visit him and his family, if and whenever I should be happen to be in Paris!!   He passed away in 1972, just after his son Jean, also a pianist, sadly was killed in a motor accident).    Returning to the narrative:    I had appeared with the Spokane Junior Symphony in the 9th grade, performing one of the Bach "Brandenburg Concerti," and also the "Sugar Plum Fairy Variation" (on the celeste) from Tschaikovsky's "Nutcracker Suite!"  Talk about visions of the future!   Little did I realize that would be the very first of hundreds, if not thousands of performances (not to mention, rehearsals) of "The Nutcracker" that I would play later in my life, as  piano soloist for The New York City Ballet and then later, for Pacific Northwest Ballet.   And that "Nutcracker" would define my Christmas seasons for the next 35 years!    However, I was blissfully unaware of all this drama that would unveil itself.      
                  My first day at Gonzaga University was fraught with drama and stress.   During the previous week, I had met with an advisor to determine my course of study at this university.   Because I was schedule to attend the Eastman School of Music the following year as a transfer student, I was determined to take the very maximum credits allowed, so I selected courses that were required for my degree in music as well as electives in which I was interested.   If one has never been through this process before, let me say that a high degree of patience is necessary.    There is a limited amount of space for certain classes, and when they are filled, that is that.    One has to try to find a comparable option, if possible, or make do with different subjects of a similar nature.   This is somewhat like a crossword puzzle - and speed is of the essence in registering.   I remember getting the last place in a certain music theory class, no small feat, as I had to literally run from one room to another on different floors!   And without getting lost!    Then there were the mammoth lecture classes--which featured various professors, some more popular than others.    Certain courses were overcrowded, while others were on the small side.   I rather liked the large classes, because I could more or less get lost in the sea of matriculating students.   Always a copious note taker, I enjoyed the lectures--especially if the professor was knowledgeable and humorous, which some definitely were.   These classes were mostly English, World History, Mathematics, Philosophy and Religion.   (Gonzaga is a Catholic University - so all students are required to follow a plan of study for Philosophy and Religion courses, thus automatically graduating with a minor in Philosophy.    Because I had placed very high in math, I was enrolled automatically in first year trigonometry, which was either very difficult, or impossibly difficult, depending on the professor.   The music courses were much smaller in size, and also more precision oriented.   I loved music theory, and was more or less a 'natural,' thanks to my 'perfect pitch,' which most students did not possess.   History of music involved a lot of reading and memorization of facts about composers, their lives, style of composition, and their respective places in history which corresponded to world events.    A certain period of history could be defined by a movement in art, music, drama, or a historical event, cataclysmic or otherwise.    I also took subjects such as speech, sports history, European History, and participated in badminton and table tennis (in which I had excelled in high school).    Since I was a music major, I enrolled in many music courses, of course, plus Women's Glee Club, and Combined Glee Club (both men and women.)
     My piano teacher at this time (I had stopped studying with Dr. Moldenhauer - at mother's insistence as they did not get along very well) - was a lovely and inspiring woman named Trula Whelan who taught at Gonzaga as well as privately in her home, which is where I had my lessons.    I studied with her until I left Spokane;  it was she who entered me in all those competitions - and it was her husband who was the conductor of the Spokane Philharmonic (Harold Paul Whelan).   If this sounds like nepotism, in so far as my winning all competition divisions, rest assured it was not.    The judges were invited from various universities and music schools in the country.   Indeed one of them was Van Cliburn and his mother, which is when I was invited to play for him.   This was indeed a thrilling occasion for me, and I had a private coaching with both of them together.   (As you may recall, he won the Tschaikovsky Competition, and became world-famous.)   I remember his height - he was VERY TALL and thin, and had huge hands.   He could play an interval of a 12th (an octave plus a 5th) as easily as I could play an octave.    He was very complimentary to me and told me I should become a concert pianist, for certain.  
     One of my fondest memories of that time was my association with a folk-singing group of 3 men from Gonzaga, who all had very good voices, and were enrolled in the music school as well.   They eventually became very famous and known nationally as The Chad Mitchell Trio.    Chad was a senior, I recall, and he and I became friends through glee club.   He was starting this group, and asked me if I would assist him in rehearsing with the guys - play the music, and generally help them learn it.   The song "Blowin' in the Wind" (written by Bob Dylan) became one of their trademarks - (it was an anthem of the 60's, to be sure), and indeed they were the first professional group to record and present it nationally on the Ed Sullivan Show.    All of their songs were hits, and to some extent duplicated The Kingston Trio's Repertoire - but Chad and the guys (Mike Kobluk and Joe Frazier) had their own distinctive sound, sang completely on pitch, had great energy, and were every bit as good as the K. Trio, I thought.   Chad's voice was very clear and pleasing (he was the tenor and lead singer.)   They toured a great deal and made many recordings, of which I have several   When they came to NYC during my sojourn at the New York City Ballet, I attended their performances, and we all celebrated together.   Fun times indeed!    I was proud of the fact that I had been there on the ground floor, so to speak, of their rise to fame.    As I was writing the foregoing paragraph about them here at home in Seattle, I saw on the television that one of the PBS stations was presenting a retrospective of folk-singing groups,  with a clip of Judy Collins and Pete Seeger from the early times.     Then came Michele Phillips, who was a guest (present time) on the show and clips were shown of the Mamas and the Papas (remember Mama Cass and John Phillips?)    The next group to perform was The Chad Mitchell Trio!!   I nearly dropped my glass of wine, and watched with avid interest this attractive trio of men whom I had known when we were all quite young.   (make that VERY YOUNG)     They sounded great!   It was definitely a moment!     The program showed them as they are now, as well as a clip from an early performance.  
       It was around this time that my brother bought himself a used guitar for five dollars (he was proud of that fact) and began teaching himself to play the instrument.   He also attended Gonzaga (I was long gone by the time he enrolled), and studied voice with Lyle Moore, the choral director.   He told me that he learned much from Lyle, and after that started his own singing group (called 'The ChurchKeys' ).     I wonder where he got that idea?   (By the way, a churchkey is a beer bottle opening tool.)    If my memory serves me correctly, he came with me to observe  Chad and group rehearse in the music building.    On that particular day, the place was locked - and we couldn't get in.   But we found a window open on the lowest floor and crawled through it, then opened the door for the others.     
      At the end of my freshman year, I felt ready to tackle the next hurdle.   Incidentally, I had no problems adjusting to university life.   In fact, I preferred it to high school (much to the chagrin of certain people who were critical of my parents' decision to allow me to graduate a year early.)   For one thing, classes were held two or three times per week, and not every day as in high school - with the resultant daily homework.   So I found University life to be much less stressful - there was actually a little time in between classes and one was not so rushed.     The only classes which met every day were Music Theory, Ear Training, and Keyboard Harmony.    So the year ended for me on a triumphant note, so to speak, with nearly straight A's in all my coursework, and 30 credits towards a degree.   During that summer, I worked as a bank teller in the Washington Trust Bank, which I enjoyed very much.     Sometimes I worked a late shift posting entries on the bookkeeping machines.  (There were no computers yet!).     
      My leavetaking at the train station as I departed for Rochester, New York, and The Eastman School was quite emotional for all of us, especially my parents.   I thought my father was going to cry, and my brother was looking very sad.    We had gone through so much growing up together, that a strong bond existed between us.   I knew I would miss him, and vice versa.   (To this day we speak on the telephone often, even though he lives in South America part of the year.   Thank goodness for internet phone - so cost isn't a factor).    My emotions were running high - on one hand I would miss my family, and on the other hand,  I could hardly contain myself.     Indeed I looked forward with great anticipation to beginning a new life in a totally musical environment, with other like-minded musicians from all over the world.    The prospect was too thrilling for words!   And there was the added bonus of my being away from my rather domineering and overly protective mother.     I was only sorry that my younger brother, John, could not come with me - and I felt a little guilty leaving him at home alone.